0 How to Develop a Positive Personality Anyone Who Can not Be Denied

How to Develop a Positive Personality Anyone Who Can not Be Denied

Imagine walking into a room full of people and see the change in atmosphere as everyone in the room fell silent. Their eyes were fixed on the direction and you can read from their faces how happy they are to see you. Does this sound like a dream or scenario is too good to be true? It is difficult to explain this phenomenon, but there are actually people who have a positive personality. There is an aura of positive energy in their presence that draws people to them like a magnet. Personality can be developed and that you can accomplish if you practice these steps daily:

Touch with your true self by understanding the strengths and weaknesses and maximize your full potential as a person. There are many personality tests you can take to provide a deeper understanding of yourself and you can do it online for free. Many reflect on who you are and are willing to change themselves for the better to help you achieve your goals.

Be assertive listener. Everyone has a part of their challenges and victories in life and most people are attracted to someone who listened to them talk. The easiest way to gain the trust of others is to listen to them and sympathize with what they are experiencing. Remember that other people are sharing their thoughts can find out if you really listen to them. Use positive feedback and maintain eye contact with them. This gives them a sense of confidence and trust in your presence, and these two elements are very important in human relations.

Smile and laugh a lot. Nothing feels better than seeing someone smile and a hearty laugh to hear someone, especially on a day that was really tough. It is a proven fact that the dose of smiles and laughter of the day inspire us, improve health, and beneficial to the giver and the receiver. If you are a person who likes to smile, you emit a happy disposition and people are naturally attracted to you. Anyone who wants the company of grouchy? Not you and not anyone else.

Always happy and ready to lend a hand to help. One's actions reflect his heart. Find every opportunity to help others. If you help a person no matter how small it is, it brings good feelings and pave the way for the recipient to like and respect you in return.

Be great to give a sincere compliment to someone else. Our tongue has the power to heal or destroy and condemn or bless someone. Someone who has a charming personality and positive always have something good and fun to say to others. Every human being wants to hear good things about himself and the people who made her feel good and appreciated those who were favored as a friend.

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0 Spiritual Maturity

Spiritual Maturity

Eph 4:13 "until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, and the growth rate according to the fullness of Christ,"

Discussing spiritual maturity is not easy. What is true spiritual maturity? I will try to discuss as far as is known even to understand what true manhood is so only if we have reached the level of maturity. I hear people say a lot about the maturity and admitted
were grown in spiritual matters but in my opinion they were babies / children spiritually. Recognition of maturity does not come from ourselves but from others who feel the maturity. A child of 10 years can be admitted and acted
as adults, but others who see it know that the child was not yet mature.
An adult who does not need to recognize and act as if as an adult because he is grown so other people could see it.

Usually when the pressure we will be able to see someone is mature or not. People who have the spiritual maturity will remain calm and able to control the situation in any heavy pressure. Another sign is the one who reaches spiritual maturity have focused only live for a divine purpose. He is no longer focused on the personal ambition or desire in life. All that does is to please God alone.
In other words he was dead against your own. His life is fully geared to meet the plan and the divine call.

Additionally spiritually mature person also has the ability to distinguish between good and evil as his spiritual senses trained (Heb 5:14). Then also have a full confidence whether something is or is not the will of God (Col. 4:12 b). Full confidence that usually comes from the testimony of mental / spirit that has been trained to know something is the will of God or not. A person who is spiritually mature will know and can feel through his mind whether something is true or not.

Other important signs are spiritually mature person who does not like dispute / fight.
Only children who love to fight and quarrel. A mature person will try to keep the peace, even rope in a sharp dissent of any kind. Not that people today do not dare to give his opinion but it will still keep the spirit of unity remains in each of the differences. So if Adak child of God or a man of God who loves to fight, they are not yet having a maturity in Christ.

Discussing about the spiritual maturity is important but more importantly how
it can reach maturity? To reach spiritual maturity no short cuts and instant. A person can learn theology and the Bible has a lot of knowledge but not necessarily his spiritual maturity. To reach maturity is necessary to study the Word of God. But it is more important whether we practice to live up to God's Word?
The key to achieving compliance maturity is not knowledge. God will take us step by step in spiritual growth if we will obey Him. In every stage of growth will usually be accompanied by a crisis. In times of crisis we can choose to use its own power or give it to God. When we choose to surrender the more we grow in spirituality. Later submission will bear obedience. So people who have spiritual maturity is a person who obeyed God.
Life is not for myself anymore but for the glory of God alone.

Hopefully this article can help and encourage you all to reach spiritual maturity.
The Holy Spirit will help and bring each of us to maturity. Everyone has different processes, only God knows the best way to bring us to maturity. God is the good shepherd. He will take it step by step every sheep in order to become an adult.

quoted from glorianet

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0 Recognizing The Signs Of Maturity In a Person

Recognizing The Signs Of Maturity In a Person

Mortimer R. Feinberg, Ph.D.1

Psychologists and psychiatrists agree that a person's success is marked by the development of achievement and emotional maturity. Although no one denies this claim, but few people know exactly how the appearance of someone who is an adult or mature it, how to dress and berdandannya, how to face the challenge, what his responsibilities to the family, and how his views of the world . What is clear maturity is a valuable treasure. Indeed, what is called the maturity or maturity?

Maturity is not necessarily related to intelligence. Many people are very brilliant, but still like a child in terms of mastery of feelings, the desire to gain the attention and love from everyone, in how to treat themselves and others, and in response to emotion. However, the height of one's property is not an obstacle to develop emotional maturity. In fact, the evidence suggests the opposite situation. People who are more intelligent tend to have the emotional development of a better and superior, and has an ability to adjust to or better social maturity.

Maturity was not mean happiness. Emotional maturity does not guarantee freedom from trouble and distress. Emotional maturity is characterized by how the conflict is resolved, how to handle adversity. People who've grown memandanng difficulties not as a disaster, but as challenges.

What is the maturity / maturity that? According to Webster's dictionary, is a state of moving forward towards perfection. This definition does not mention the preposition "to" but "the direction". This means that we can never arrive at perfection, but we can move forward in that direction. This forward movement uniq for every individual. Thus, maturity is not a static state, but rather a state of "being" or a state of becoming. This understanding explains, the case for example, why an executive act so mature in his work, but as a husband and father he had a lot of mistakes. There was no one who could act and react to all situations and aspects of life with a hundred percent full maturity. They can handle a lot more mature proble. Here are some qualities or marks on a person's maturity. However, the duty of man is to grow it in himself, and be a part of itself. Thus, the adult / mature are:

1 He received his own

The most effective executive is one who has a good view or assessment of the strengths and weaknesses. He was able to see and judge themselves in an objective and realistic. Thus he can pick people who can help compensate for the weaknesses and shortcomings. He was able to use the strengths and talents effectively, and free of the usual frustrations arising from the desire to achieve something that actually is not in him. A mature person knows himself better, and always strive to be better. He is not concerned to menandingin others, but trying to develop himself. Dr. Abraham Maslow said, "People today want to be the best of all that can be earned. In this case he does not feel to have competitors.

2 He mengharagai others

Effective executives can receive the positions of others who are different. He said if adults can appreciate the difference, and do not try to shape other people based on the image itself. This does not mean that the person who cooked it to be weak, because if there are weaknesses in a person that is so disturbing the overall goal, he did not hesitate to let him go. The size of the most appropriate and fair in relationships with others that we respect others, is the lack of desire to manipulate others or manipulate them.

3 He accepted responsibility

People who are not adults will regret their misfortune. In fact, they argue that it's bad luck caused by someone else. Meanwhile, people who have grown even recognize and accept the responsibilities and limitations and the circumstances in which it was done. Responsibility is the feeling that one is individually responsible for all activities, or an urge to do and accomplish what should be and should be done and completed. Entrusting the fate of both the boss to solve the problem yourself is a sign of immaturity. Sense of security and happiness is achieved by having confidence in the responsibility for their own lives.

4 He believed in yourself

Someone who is mature welcomed the participation of another person, even if it concerns the executive decision making, because it believes in itself. He gained a deep satisfaction from the accomplishments and the things done by his subordinates. He gained a sense of pride, along with the awareness of their responsibilities, and the realization that the child buadanya it depends on the leadership. Meanwhile, people who are not mature it will feel pain when he moved from the role of giving orders to the role of supervisor, or if he should make way for subordinates to grow. Someone adults learn gain a sense of satisfaction to develop the potential of others.

5 He patiently

Someone adults learn to accept the fact, that for some problems there is no settlement and easy solutions. She will not swallow any suggestions first. He appreciated the facts and patience in collecting information before giving advice for a solution to the problem. Not only was he patient, but also know that it is better to have more than one plan completion.

6 He has a sense of humor

A mature person found laughter is healthy. But he would not laugh or harm / hurt other people's feelings. He also would not be laughing if the humor that makes the other person look stupid. Humor should be a part of a healthy emotion, which bring warm and radiant smile is sweet. Sense of humor you represent your attitude towards others. A mature person using humor as a tool paves the tension, not another hitter.

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0 Concern = Level Maturity Level

Concern = Level Maturity Level 

               Every living human being or rather living certainly have problems. The problem can be very diverse and come from all corners of the condition of each individual. In an expression says that the problem is a necessity, and the necessity that must have come over to humans, regardless of age, gender, ethnicity or culture. But of course different levels. A toddler only problematic at best only his diaper or when the milk runs out, unlike many teenagers start having problems socially, or parents whose problem is quite complex. Nevertheless, the real problem is inevitable, because when we avoid the problem that new problems will emerge at the same level or even more severe. So, the problem should be dealt with, any consequences obtained because it is a step in maturation. 

            Generally, maturity is influenced by the way they encounter a problem. There are several types of people associated with the way they encounter and solve problems encountered nominally. Various types of people encountered in dealing with the problems, it does not directly reflect the level of maturity. As for some of these types are as follows; 

1. Paranoid / peace lover 

Paranoid is the worst level of maturity that suggests that someone is still far from mature. Paranoid is actually closely related to traumatic, because most traumatic is what causes a person to become paranoid. But there are also those who simply have a paranoid nature from birth. People who have a tendency towards paranoid coward, trying to run away from the problem, too afraid of the risks to the moon about something big is going to happen. The severity of such a person considers himself the most good, considers himself the most famous, or most adults. And everything is just mere personal fantasy. People like this are usually looking for a scapegoat for a problem that afflicts him. So people paranoid including the low level of maturity because they do not want to deal with so-called peace lover or a closely related plegmatis. 

2. Troubled-ers 

In Big Indonesian Dictionary, confusion is defined as "a rollicking busy, hectic, chaotic or incoherent (to mind)." The word upset suddenly became popular and became trensetter among the youth, especially the ababil. The word is suddenly booming to mention the condition of the heart or mind of another upset, many problems or work. Though the language of psychology, confusion is the inability to define the problem. Turmoil will arise and hit the people who tend to want to avoid problems. Those who are troubled will tend to look for excuses to complete their responsibilities. Troubled people will also tend to blame others / looking for a scapegoat for the problems that beset him. Sadly, today many people upset that flooded social networking. A psychological study says that Facebook is now the place moaning while nggosip twitter become the most popular place for the confusion to divert kegalauannya. If we look further, the fact that this is so. Average or posting status of our young generation is quite sad, which contains most of the things that Animashaun, alay, or jablay which are sourced from the turmoil. People are upset is the second lowest level of maturity because they put emotional heart in solving problems and looking at only one side without any problems and justify rational thinking first, but if they look much wiser on the other hand, they will find solutions to many roads and masalaah, or at least the problem will be more easily visible. 

3. Mandiri 

Often we find some people try to solve their problems on their own, do not want any interference of others. People like this will try to solve the problem by working hard and focused on finding a solution of any problems it faces. 

Such people usually have the belief that those who earnestly'll reap the rewards (man Jadda wa jada). People who are in this type tend to be perfectionist or oriented kesempurn 

aan. They have a passion and high standards in terms of looking at things. People like this have started in the first stage of maturity, which already has a passion for living independently and having the courage to face the problem to be solved, not to be avoided. Nevertheless, there is also a lack of nurture this nature, especially if it is too independent. People who are too independent capability of high need, because they will find it difficult if there are many problems that come simultaneously. Moreover, when they have to solve a problem is likely to be feeling cocky or too confident. Worse, if they have not been able to solve the problem for a long time after they were struggling, would potentially saturated if it is not accompanied by a sense of sincerity. What's worse is when it comes to blame God, saying God is not fair, or was not received by the many problems that beset him. 

4. Sociable 

Sometimes it will be very difficult to solve the problem alone, so they need help from others to participate finish. This is where important or what friends are there when we need it. The people are outgoing, sociable, and many friends are less likely to find it difficult to solve the problem because a lot of people around him who are willing to help, except for a very personal factors that are usually kept for yourself. Therefore, such people tend to look carefree, always cheerful, and if no problems. People who are in this type can be said to have grown because they've been able to manage the problem with in-outsourced to others. They've been able to find the angle of view or another way to solve the problem. However, the shortage is because too often enlist the help of others, it is possible that the individual capabilities of doubt when it comes to solve the problem alone. 

5. The Manager 

A manager must have extensive knowledge and be able to look at problems from different aspects to solve it. People who spirited managers usually called wise men are able to set the proportion of when and how big a problem that is able to face him and when he had to ask for help from others. Therefore, I wonder if people like this are usually able to mediate problems between the two sides, so he is considered mature and ditokohkan in the community. People in this stage are usually facing a complex problem, yet they are always trying to optimal either independently or with the help of others to be combined to get the right formula to resolve the problem. Nonetheless, behind all its advantages, there are potential drawbacks can arise for people like this if it did not have the knowledge and understanding of both religions. Due to the characterizations and the principles that he had, there would be potential for him to be a dictator or a person who easily against the things that are contrary to the principle. 

6. True Muslim 

Group is what can be said as one who has the highest level of maturity. They were able to combine all the resources at their disposal and have a qualified religious capabilities to solve problems in different ways, viewpoints, and effort. Such people have to understand that all the problems of life comes from Allah SWT. So the most effective way to overcome the problem is to seek assistance from Allah SWT. In the Qur'an Allah has informed any formula to break down all the complicated problems that afflict us: "And call it the name of your Lord, and Worship him wholeheartedly. (He is) Lord's east and west, there is no god but He, so make him as a protector. "(Sura Muzzammil: 8-9). That is, our job is not in trouble when using our power to resolve it, nor to use our intelligence to fix it, but by first making our worship as a weapon to deal with any problem! Rest assured that only our duty in this world is to pray to Him. Thus, any problems that come our way we will actually finish with his will, as long as we wholeheartedly worship only. The definition of worship itself is quite spacious. The point of worship is to try and work or activities intended to obtain Ridha Allah SWT.

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0 Life Is a Choice

Life Is a Choice

In this life there are many choices, where you will arrange a meeting at a few options for survival. Learning to survive and be the best. But it all just becomes an expectation, which is where the hope is only an illusion and shadow self when there is no action for sure!

Are you a person who love to hallucinate it? or someone who likes doing positive change?. The answer only to yourself .. hehee :)

There are 5 "ORGANIZATIONS PROHIBITED" for those who want to be successful:

1. NATO (No Action Talk Only)
2. NACO (No Action Concept Only)
3. NADO (No Action Dream Only)
4. NAPO (No Action Plan Only)
5. NARO (No Action Review Only)
# PAULUS Winarto

It was to my knowledge, but you are free to choose for the good of yourself ..
Remember!!!  Life is a choice. So, be wise in the choice and attitude.

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