Recognizing The Signs Of Maturity In a Person
Mortimer R. Feinberg, Ph.D.1
Psychologists and psychiatrists agree that a person's success is marked by the development of achievement and emotional maturity. Although no one denies this claim, but few people know exactly how the appearance of someone who is an adult or mature it, how to dress and berdandannya, how to face the challenge, what his responsibilities to the family, and how his views of the world . What is clear maturity is a valuable treasure. Indeed, what is called the maturity or maturity?
Maturity is not necessarily related to intelligence. Many people are very brilliant, but still like a child in terms of mastery of feelings, the desire to gain the attention and love from everyone, in how to treat themselves and others, and in response to emotion. However, the height of one's property is not an obstacle to develop emotional maturity. In fact, the evidence suggests the opposite situation. People who are more intelligent tend to have the emotional development of a better and superior, and has an ability to adjust to or better social maturity.
Maturity was not mean happiness. Emotional maturity does not guarantee freedom from trouble and distress. Emotional maturity is characterized by how the conflict is resolved, how to handle adversity. People who've grown memandanng difficulties not as a disaster, but as challenges.
What is the maturity / maturity that? According to Webster's dictionary, is a state of moving forward towards perfection. This definition does not mention the preposition "to" but "the direction". This means that we can never arrive at perfection, but we can move forward in that direction. This forward movement uniq for every individual. Thus, maturity is not a static state, but rather a state of "being" or a state of becoming. This understanding explains, the case for example, why an executive act so mature in his work, but as a husband and father he had a lot of mistakes. There was no one who could act and react to all situations and aspects of life with a hundred percent full maturity. They can handle a lot more mature proble. Here are some qualities or marks on a person's maturity. However, the duty of man is to grow it in himself, and be a part of itself. Thus, the adult / mature are:
1 He received his own
The most effective executive is one who has a good view or assessment of the strengths and weaknesses. He was able to see and judge themselves in an objective and realistic. Thus he can pick people who can help compensate for the weaknesses and shortcomings. He was able to use the strengths and talents effectively, and free of the usual frustrations arising from the desire to achieve something that actually is not in him. A mature person knows himself better, and always strive to be better. He is not concerned to menandingin others, but trying to develop himself. Dr. Abraham Maslow said, "People today want to be the best of all that can be earned. In this case he does not feel to have competitors.
2 He mengharagai others
Effective executives can receive the positions of others who are different. He said if adults can appreciate the difference, and do not try to shape other people based on the image itself. This does not mean that the person who cooked it to be weak, because if there are weaknesses in a person that is so disturbing the overall goal, he did not hesitate to let him go. The size of the most appropriate and fair in relationships with others that we respect others, is the lack of desire to manipulate others or manipulate them.
3 He accepted responsibility
People who are not adults will regret their misfortune. In fact, they argue that it's bad luck caused by someone else. Meanwhile, people who have grown even recognize and accept the responsibilities and limitations and the circumstances in which it was done. Responsibility is the feeling that one is individually responsible for all activities, or an urge to do and accomplish what should be and should be done and completed. Entrusting the fate of both the boss to solve the problem yourself is a sign of immaturity. Sense of security and happiness is achieved by having confidence in the responsibility for their own lives.
4 He believed in yourself
Someone who is mature welcomed the participation of another person, even if it concerns the executive decision making, because it believes in itself. He gained a deep satisfaction from the accomplishments and the things done by his subordinates. He gained a sense of pride, along with the awareness of their responsibilities, and the realization that the child buadanya it depends on the leadership. Meanwhile, people who are not mature it will feel pain when he moved from the role of giving orders to the role of supervisor, or if he should make way for subordinates to grow. Someone adults learn gain a sense of satisfaction to develop the potential of others.
5 He patiently
Someone adults learn to accept the fact, that for some problems there is no settlement and easy solutions. She will not swallow any suggestions first. He appreciated the facts and patience in collecting information before giving advice for a solution to the problem. Not only was he patient, but also know that it is better to have more than one plan completion.
6 He has a sense of humor
A mature person found laughter is healthy. But he would not laugh or harm / hurt other people's feelings. He also would not be laughing if the humor that makes the other person look stupid. Humor should be a part of a healthy emotion, which bring warm and radiant smile is sweet. Sense of humor you represent your attitude towards others. A mature person using humor as a tool paves the tension, not another hitter.
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