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0 Tips on How to Expressing Love
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0 What is the Difference Between Love, Lust and Romance?
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All creatures in the world, mammals, birds, marine life, etc. have a desire to marry origin and reproduce. Reproduction is the only way to continue the species. Thus, the desire is the basic biological needs.
For men and women to be attracted to each other and with the selection of appropriate materials, romance is needed. Both lust and romance are gender-specific and generally occur between a man and a woman. On the other hand, love is love, is universal and not gender spresifik on certain species. A man can love a woman or a man or birds or animals. Love knows no bounds. Let's do a brief analysis of the expression of love, romance and lust in man and the resulting impact of each.
Love is a soft feeling but at the bottom of appeal to the creature or object. Love is not limited to one thing only. You can love your dog and at the same time, you can love your outfit. Love expands, by nature, more love, you feel happier. It is very difficult to limit because love is second nature to us all. We can not live without love. The reason is very simple. First we love ourselves. Unless you can not live alone. Think for a moment. Those who commit suicide do so only in a fraction of time when hate, for whatever reason. Progress continues on our personal love our family members, relatives, friends, coworkers, neighbors, and others in our community. Love can be mild or severe. Love or intense desire to make your very obsessive and possessive on the person or object of your love. All the problems and conflicts we started at the moment.
There's one more thing about love. Love is not limited to physical objects. Even the emotional aspect is a part of our love. You say, I love swimming, I love to sing, etc.. We love the activities, including physical and emotional. Many of us fantasize about various things. It is an emotional love.
In the language of literature, many use love as a theme. Some examples are given below.
Love is blind
Fuck
Calflove
There is no love lost
fall in love
not for love or money
all fair in love and war
Love at first sight
Love is a force more powerful than others. He did not look, can not be seen or measured, yet powerful enough to turn into a moment, and offer more joy than any other material that may be.
While the all-embracing love, romance and passion usually occurs between a man and a woman. In real love you want a good person. In romantic love you want the other person. Romance has always been considered as an enjoyable experience. Many novel about love, based on the novel alone. The same goes for a lot of films and television programs. However, many romance ended as a failure because of the madness of the early cover negative traits. Then, when the negative aspects of knowledge began to grow, disappointment entry. Therefore, in order to be successful romance, the couple should be clear about what is expected by each. Open discussion of these issues makes it easier to understand each other and result in a harmonious relationship. It is important to stay relaxed and enjoy being in a romantic relationship.
Psychologists argue that romantic love comes only from a desire for self-gratification. They feel that the illusion which leads to romantic love is a powerful emotion and should be adequately controlled.
On the other hand, desire a little dangerous, because above all is the feeling of intense desire. Lust occur between people or maybe other material objects. When you are in lust, usually closes the mind, and the results can be disastrous. Therefore, in-depth and clear analysis and understanding of the nature of passion is required. Lust is also a desire for self-gratification, but much more powerful than romantic love. When you lust after someone or something, a strong desire to get a person or object is likely to cross the line. Emotional control appetite is very difficult. Most of the time, after reaching the coveted person or object, the guilt began to be felt. Therefore, do braking when you get the feeling of lust.
0 How to Find Women & Getting Dating?
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Knowing the type of woman you are looking for dating is one of the best ways to find out where to find it. If you like a quiet intellectual type, you probably will not find it at the local bar. You might be interested in a woman who likes to look for a new pleasure on the weekends. Finding common interests is important in finding a woman.
1. Evaluate yourself. Do you have trouble meeting women or you are just unlucky in love? Women can smell insecurity from afar, and it's not interesting properties. Set yourself up for success by finding out why you deserve their attention. Maybe you have a good sense of humor or volunteers. Whatever you value about yourself, chances are someone else will judge the same.
2. Clean yourself. Do not underestimate the power of personal hygiene. Women love a good smile and fresh breath. Can not remember the last time you use dental floss? Now is the time to begin to clean up some bad habits. Take care of your skin. If you want to look in the best condition, started eating better and exercising. You do not have to look like a bodybuilder, but the confidence you get from taking care of yourself will attract women.
3. Create a list of your interests. Do you like reading, walking, playing video games, hiking or cooking? Much easier to find a date when you share the same interests. Chances are you'll find a woman in the group with the same passion.
4. Stepping outside the box. Assuming you'll find a woman just in your local cooking club, for example, may not always succeed. If all else fails, join online forums where you can meet other people with similar interests as you. Do not start fishing to get women, just find the same interest to get started. Your date can be anywhere.
5. Try dating sites. Many people think dating sites are for the desperate, but find a dating partner online is about being proactive. With the dating website you can sort through the hundreds of women and connect with someone in your area. Many of these sites have a tool that allows you to specify the features that you are looking for.
6. Take him on a date. Know little about the story long before asking her out. Is he just got out of a relationship? Is he divorced? Is he looking for someone to marry? All these questions will help you in your approach. Start with just invited to meet for coffee. By making your first date as relaxed as possible, you eliminate stress. Be yourself. If you enjoy a cup of coffee with him, invite him to dinner.
0 How to Develop a Positive Personality Anyone Who Can not Be Denied
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Imagine walking into a room full of people and see the change in atmosphere as everyone in the room fell silent. Their eyes were fixed on the direction and you can read from their faces how happy they are to see you. Does this sound like a dream or scenario is too good to be true? It is difficult to explain this phenomenon, but there are actually people who have a positive personality. There is an aura of positive energy in their presence that draws people to them like a magnet. Personality can be developed and that you can accomplish if you practice these steps daily:
Touch with your true self by understanding the strengths and weaknesses and maximize your full potential as a person. There are many personality tests you can take to provide a deeper understanding of yourself and you can do it online for free. Many reflect on who you are and are willing to change themselves for the better to help you achieve your goals.
Be assertive listener. Everyone has a part of their challenges and victories in life and most people are attracted to someone who listened to them talk. The easiest way to gain the trust of others is to listen to them and sympathize with what they are experiencing. Remember that other people are sharing their thoughts can find out if you really listen to them. Use positive feedback and maintain eye contact with them. This gives them a sense of confidence and trust in your presence, and these two elements are very important in human relations.
Smile and laugh a lot. Nothing feels better than seeing someone smile and a hearty laugh to hear someone, especially on a day that was really tough. It is a proven fact that the dose of smiles and laughter of the day inspire us, improve health, and beneficial to the giver and the receiver. If you are a person who likes to smile, you emit a happy disposition and people are naturally attracted to you. Anyone who wants the company of grouchy? Not you and not anyone else.
Always happy and ready to lend a hand to help. One's actions reflect his heart. Find every opportunity to help others. If you help a person no matter how small it is, it brings good feelings and pave the way for the recipient to like and respect you in return.
Be great to give a sincere compliment to someone else. Our tongue has the power to heal or destroy and condemn or bless someone. Someone who has a charming personality and positive always have something good and fun to say to others. Every human being wants to hear good things about himself and the people who made her feel good and appreciated those who were favored as a friend.
0 Spiritual Maturity
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Eph 4:13 "until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, and the growth rate according to the fullness of Christ,"
Discussing spiritual maturity is not easy. What is true spiritual maturity? I will try to discuss as far as is known even to understand what true manhood is so only if we have reached the level of maturity. I hear people say a lot about the maturity and admitted
were grown in spiritual matters but in my opinion they were babies / children spiritually. Recognition of maturity does not come from ourselves but from others who feel the maturity. A child of 10 years can be admitted and acted
as adults, but others who see it know that the child was not yet mature.
An adult who does not need to recognize and act as if as an adult because he is grown so other people could see it.
Usually when the pressure we will be able to see someone is mature or not. People who have the spiritual maturity will remain calm and able to control the situation in any heavy pressure. Another sign is the one who reaches spiritual maturity have focused only live for a divine purpose. He is no longer focused on the personal ambition or desire in life. All that does is to please God alone.
In other words he was dead against your own. His life is fully geared to meet the plan and the divine call.
Additionally spiritually mature person also has the ability to distinguish between good and evil as his spiritual senses trained (Heb 5:14). Then also have a full confidence whether something is or is not the will of God (Col. 4:12 b). Full confidence that usually comes from the testimony of mental / spirit that has been trained to know something is the will of God or not. A person who is spiritually mature will know and can feel through his mind whether something is true or not.
Other important signs are spiritually mature person who does not like dispute / fight.
Only children who love to fight and quarrel. A mature person will try to keep the peace, even rope in a sharp dissent of any kind. Not that people today do not dare to give his opinion but it will still keep the spirit of unity remains in each of the differences. So if Adak child of God or a man of God who loves to fight, they are not yet having a maturity in Christ.
Discussing about the spiritual maturity is important but more importantly how
it can reach maturity? To reach spiritual maturity no short cuts and instant. A person can learn theology and the Bible has a lot of knowledge but not necessarily his spiritual maturity. To reach maturity is necessary to study the Word of God. But it is more important whether we practice to live up to God's Word?
The key to achieving compliance maturity is not knowledge. God will take us step by step in spiritual growth if we will obey Him. In every stage of growth will usually be accompanied by a crisis. In times of crisis we can choose to use its own power or give it to God. When we choose to surrender the more we grow in spirituality. Later submission will bear obedience. So people who have spiritual maturity is a person who obeyed God.
Life is not for myself anymore but for the glory of God alone.
Hopefully this article can help and encourage you all to reach spiritual maturity.
The Holy Spirit will help and bring each of us to maturity. Everyone has different processes, only God knows the best way to bring us to maturity. God is the good shepherd. He will take it step by step every sheep in order to become an adult.
quoted from glorianet
0 Recognizing The Signs Of Maturity In a Person
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Mortimer R. Feinberg, Ph.D.1
Psychologists and psychiatrists agree that a person's success is marked by the development of achievement and emotional maturity. Although no one denies this claim, but few people know exactly how the appearance of someone who is an adult or mature it, how to dress and berdandannya, how to face the challenge, what his responsibilities to the family, and how his views of the world . What is clear maturity is a valuable treasure. Indeed, what is called the maturity or maturity?
Maturity is not necessarily related to intelligence. Many people are very brilliant, but still like a child in terms of mastery of feelings, the desire to gain the attention and love from everyone, in how to treat themselves and others, and in response to emotion. However, the height of one's property is not an obstacle to develop emotional maturity. In fact, the evidence suggests the opposite situation. People who are more intelligent tend to have the emotional development of a better and superior, and has an ability to adjust to or better social maturity.
Maturity was not mean happiness. Emotional maturity does not guarantee freedom from trouble and distress. Emotional maturity is characterized by how the conflict is resolved, how to handle adversity. People who've grown memandanng difficulties not as a disaster, but as challenges.
What is the maturity / maturity that? According to Webster's dictionary, is a state of moving forward towards perfection. This definition does not mention the preposition "to" but "the direction". This means that we can never arrive at perfection, but we can move forward in that direction. This forward movement uniq for every individual. Thus, maturity is not a static state, but rather a state of "being" or a state of becoming. This understanding explains, the case for example, why an executive act so mature in his work, but as a husband and father he had a lot of mistakes. There was no one who could act and react to all situations and aspects of life with a hundred percent full maturity. They can handle a lot more mature proble. Here are some qualities or marks on a person's maturity. However, the duty of man is to grow it in himself, and be a part of itself. Thus, the adult / mature are:
1 He received his own
The most effective executive is one who has a good view or assessment of the strengths and weaknesses. He was able to see and judge themselves in an objective and realistic. Thus he can pick people who can help compensate for the weaknesses and shortcomings. He was able to use the strengths and talents effectively, and free of the usual frustrations arising from the desire to achieve something that actually is not in him. A mature person knows himself better, and always strive to be better. He is not concerned to menandingin others, but trying to develop himself. Dr. Abraham Maslow said, "People today want to be the best of all that can be earned. In this case he does not feel to have competitors.
2 He mengharagai others
Effective executives can receive the positions of others who are different. He said if adults can appreciate the difference, and do not try to shape other people based on the image itself. This does not mean that the person who cooked it to be weak, because if there are weaknesses in a person that is so disturbing the overall goal, he did not hesitate to let him go. The size of the most appropriate and fair in relationships with others that we respect others, is the lack of desire to manipulate others or manipulate them.
3 He accepted responsibility
People who are not adults will regret their misfortune. In fact, they argue that it's bad luck caused by someone else. Meanwhile, people who have grown even recognize and accept the responsibilities and limitations and the circumstances in which it was done. Responsibility is the feeling that one is individually responsible for all activities, or an urge to do and accomplish what should be and should be done and completed. Entrusting the fate of both the boss to solve the problem yourself is a sign of immaturity. Sense of security and happiness is achieved by having confidence in the responsibility for their own lives.
4 He believed in yourself
Someone who is mature welcomed the participation of another person, even if it concerns the executive decision making, because it believes in itself. He gained a deep satisfaction from the accomplishments and the things done by his subordinates. He gained a sense of pride, along with the awareness of their responsibilities, and the realization that the child buadanya it depends on the leadership. Meanwhile, people who are not mature it will feel pain when he moved from the role of giving orders to the role of supervisor, or if he should make way for subordinates to grow. Someone adults learn gain a sense of satisfaction to develop the potential of others.
5 He patiently
Someone adults learn to accept the fact, that for some problems there is no settlement and easy solutions. She will not swallow any suggestions first. He appreciated the facts and patience in collecting information before giving advice for a solution to the problem. Not only was he patient, but also know that it is better to have more than one plan completion.
6 He has a sense of humor
A mature person found laughter is healthy. But he would not laugh or harm / hurt other people's feelings. He also would not be laughing if the humor that makes the other person look stupid. Humor should be a part of a healthy emotion, which bring warm and radiant smile is sweet. Sense of humor you represent your attitude towards others. A mature person using humor as a tool paves the tension, not another hitter.
0 Concern = Level Maturity Level
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0 Life Is a Choice
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Are you a person who love to hallucinate it? or someone who likes doing positive change?. The answer only to yourself .. hehee :)
There are 5 "ORGANIZATIONS PROHIBITED" for those who want to be successful:
1. NATO (No Action Talk Only)
2. NACO (No Action Concept Only)
3. NADO (No Action Dream Only)
4. NAPO (No Action Plan Only)
5. NARO (No Action Review Only)
# PAULUS Winarto
It was to my knowledge, but you are free to choose for the good of yourself ..
Remember!!! Life is a choice. So, be wise in the choice and attitude.
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0 TRUE LOVE
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The name is there Love It?
Yup, without a doubt true love exists, the evidence we could see a couple of grandparents who still love each other until death separates them.
How Ways to Create True Love?
Previously, we have to understand first what "true love". There are many definition of true love, so many countless. However we do not need to be confused. Yet most definitions it is the result subjective and illogical thinking. In order not to get stuck in confusion, we should rely on the definition of true love scientific, objective and logical.
One definition of a scientific, objective and logical was raised by M Scott Peck in The Road Less Travelled. He defines love as "a willingness to develop themselves in order nurture spiritual growth or development of the self spiritual people ".
The phrase "with intent" in the definition of the underlined due primarily tujuanlah distinguish between love and the not love. Thus, any blind or jealous attempt curb the lover (though the reason for keeping safety) is not true love.
In the meantime, to nurture spiritual growth of others we love, we must first develop yourself alone. What is that? M Scott Peck explains:
"When we love someone, we love to be proved or manifested only by our own exertions .... Love is not effortless. Instead, it was filled with love business ".
Well, now let's get back to the science. Couples in long-term relationships and happy means have switch from kedaan romantic couple due to the dopamine-induced oxytocin quiet. Oxytocin is associated with feelings of satisfaction than as written earlier is a peptide hormone promote a sense of bonding and relationships and is released during breastfeeding, hugging, and orgasm.
Couples who succeed in finding a way to stimulate release of oxytocin in each other are more likely to be happy to remain always together.
0 Love Make Anyone CRAZY
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When we fall in love, the brain that served as controller depression and analysis, not at work, instead of the brain controller intuition, a sense of "ser-seran" and the part of the brain that works working with active drug response.
In conclusion According to psychiatrist and assistant clinical psychiatry at University of California San Francisco School of Medicine, Dr. Thomas Lewis, in his book titled A General Theory of Love says, "love is not a function of the brain, fall love is more a function of the nerves. "So no wonder why people who fall in love often do stupid things, because they -might-"work" without using the brain. (hahaha)
Given the current biological research, it seems that the phrase "mad love making" is not just a metaphor. There is plenty of evidence which shows that falling in love is physiologically similar to mental illness. For example, disorders such as OCD (Obsessive- Compulsive Disorder). The OCD sufferers usually have thoughts can not be certain elimination (obsessions) or perform a Repeated measures of control (compulsions). This relates to with a serotonin imbalance, and when studied, researchers found that people who fall in love have serotonin levels 40% below normal.
0 Love Make Anyone Happy
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"I can not live without you, you are in my blood stream, you is my breath, I do not remember eating, drinking can not remember, can not remember bobo, can not remember bathing etc.. all because remember you ... ". Maybe the words above Animashaun and familiar alay we hear from the mouth of someone who is intoxicated by romance. The mastermind behind the state is fenylethilamin hormone. In addition to hormone fenylethilamin There is also the hormone adrenaline. Some effects of adrenaline was similar to fenylethilamin, namely speeding breath. The rest was more to do with, "do not remember eating, drinking .. can not remember." When This hormone works, the effects can eliminate lust meal because the digestive organs so it works more slowly.
Well, the next one-rada rada scary. Apparently, in addition to hormone dopamine kokaine working properly, there is also the hormone that morphine should work. These hormones called endorphins. Endorphins is said to morphine because of its body as morphine (morphine announcing?, is a type of drug also loh ..). This hormone actually appears only when we feel pain, excitement, and orgasm. However, it seems that when we fall in love, This hormone also works, so people who fall in love feel happy (sometimes create their own smiles). Uniquely when you eat chocolate, endorphins hormones will also generated. That is why it is better if we give chocolate gift to our spouses. :)
There was also vasopressin. This hormone has a role in sexual activity. This hormone can suppress the secretion of water, play as antidiuretic can regulate urine output. Without these hormones, you've definitely need help pampers because can not regulate their own urine.
And the last is that a hormone oxytocine associated with a feeling of satisfaction. When you hug or stroking your partner, this hormone will be produced in the hypothalamus.
0 What Sih Love It?
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There are many definitions of love, some say love is destiny, love is blind, love is beautiful, love is emotion, admiration or love it like something, and so forth. The statement above about love it is true, but in spite of it all, science say that love is a biological process such as chemical reactions in our body.
Love is influenced by the release of the hormone / neurotransmitter. hormone derived from the Greek "Horman" which means "move" or in other words, hormones are chemical messengers between cells or between groups of cells. In contrast to pheromones that can spread to outside the body and can only be recognized by the individuals affected and Another similar (one species), the hormone can only be spread in in the body. When we love someone then dilepaslah hormonhormon that makes our body react, feel different feelings and emotions.
One of the hormones released by the body that is dopamine. This has the effect of dopamine should kokaine. When you meet someone you like, hormone dopamine works and its addictive. This means that those who love their partner as if addicted to continue to meet with people who liked it.
In the right proportions, dopamine creates intense energy, excitement, and the focus of attention, and that's why, when you just fallen in love, you can stay up all night, climbing mountain faster, and push your limits. love makes you more willing to run the risk that you do not normally take. (in high doses may also make you brave conduct a suicide risk .. hiih eery ..).
0 Whence Love Come From?
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0 Science of Love, Where, What, and How Love Works, And Secrets About Love
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0 ROMANTIC IDEAS Part 10 (Last)
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If you are artistically inclined, do a life drawing course, practice until you are confident and then ask your partner to pose for you.
IDEA # 92
Take your partner to a carnival or festival. Try the following:
(1) Food festival
(2) Jazz festival
(3) Wine festival
(4) Music festival
IDEA # 93
Develop a video time capsule. Start with the two of you sitting together on a couch introducing the video. Say something like, "It is currently July 14th 2002. We have decided to make this video so that we can watch it together on our 25th wedding anniversary."
Then have a section where you talk to the camera by yourself, telling the camera how you feel about your partner and why you love her. Get her to do the same thing. When you are done, place the video in a bank vault and on your 25th wedding anniversary you will be able to look back in time and reminisce about everything that you have shared.
IDEA # 94
If you are in a secluded spot near a beach or lake and the weather is warm, go for an impromptu skinny dip with your partner.
IDEA # 95
This one is great for long distance relationships. It takes a bit of organization but if you can pull it off, it is sure to be a surprise that your partner will never forget. Organize to catch up with her regularly over the internet using either a chat room or an Instant Messenger program. Then arrange a secret trip to meet her without telling her that you’re coming.
When it comes time for your usual chat over the Net, arrange for a close friend back home to log on using your nickname while you position yourself outside her door. Phone your friend on your mobile and be speaking to him in real time. Tell him to type in the following sentence, “I really miss you honey, I wish I could be there and just reach out and knock on your door.” As soon as he has sent the message, knock on the door!
IDEA # 96
Buy your partner a gold fish in a bowl and give it to her with a card saying,
“Of all the fish in the sea,
you're the fish for me!”
IDEA # 97
Go for a drive either early in the morning or at dusk. Get a CD/tape that contains sounds of nature such as Sounds Of the Rainforest and play it as you hold your partner's hand and drive.
IDEA # 98
The day before your partner's birthday buy some helium balloons, streamers and flowers and hide them in a closet.
When your partner has fallen asleep, string the streamers around the room and bring out the balloons and flowers. Place them around the bed so that your partner wakes up to a real birthday surprise.
IDEA # 99
Spend a leisurely afternoon with your partner in a large book shop such as Borders where you can browse the shelves, share a coffee and sit down to peruse your purchases.
IDEA # 100
If you can afford it, hire a sports car for a weekend. Pick up your partner and give her a long white cashmere scarf to wear with her sunglasses. Go for a drive along the coast with the top down.
IDEA # 101
Serve your partner breakfast in bed. Try the following:
(1) A poached egg in the shape of a heart - you can pick up a heart shaped poacher at most shops that sell kitchen wares.
(2) French toast with cinnamon and maple syrup.
(3) Cereal.
(4) Fruit juice.
(5) A fresh flower.
0 ROMANTIC IDEAS Part 9
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Research your partner's favorite hobby and identify a gift that is really useful for her. The more specialized the gift the more impact it will have. Talk to her friends and family and use the Net to find the information you need.
IDEA # 82
Go to a masquerade ball. Send an invitation to your partner telling her to meet you at a specific spot at the stroke of eight.
Wear a mask and when you meet her, don't say a word. Just take her hand and lead her on to the dance floor.
IDEA # 83
On Thursday, ask your partner to pack a bag for the weekend. Tell her she'll need casual clothes and walking shoes but don't tell her what you have got planned.
Pick her up after work on Friday and drive to a romantic bed and breakfast for a romantic weekend of relaxation.
IDEA # 84
When you are relaxing at home one night, take two large sheets of paper and some pencils or crayons. On each piece of paper, draw the outline of a large crystal ball sitting on a stand.
Tell your partner to look into her crystal ball and draw what she sees five years in the future. Do the same thing yourself and then come together to share and discuss your drawings.
IDEA # 85
Create a loving nickname for your partner. This could be the name she was called by her family when she was a little girl or something that is special just for the two of you.
IDEA # 86
If you are musically inclined, write a love song for your partner. Call it something like "Natasha's Song".
Produce a professional looking manuscript, print it out and get it framed. Record your song onto CD and take a photo of your partner and get a print shop to create a CD cover if you can’t create one on your computer.
Place the framed manuscript and the CD in a box and give it to your partner as a special gift.
IDEA # 87
Pick your partner up for a date and blindfold her before driving to a special destination.
Try to make the destination something really unexpected like a table set up at the top of a cliff or a dinner on a boat or old-fashioned ship. It needs to be something that will have an impact when she removes the blindfold.
IDEA # 88
Have a really big pillow fight. Set up for it by buying two pillows that are filled with feathers. Put holes in the pillows so the feathers will start to fly and then attack your partner when you feel the time is right.
IDEA # 89
Get out into the great outdoors. After a day of hiking, build an open fire. Sit by the fire with your partner, toast marshmallows and watch as the embers of the fire climb into the night sky.
IDEA # 90
If your partner uses a computer, take a photo of the two of you and get it scanned at a print shop (or scan it at home) and store it on disk as a .bmp file.
Transfer the file onto your partner's computer and set the image as the computer's wallpaper.
To do this on a Windows machine, select Start / Settings / Control Panel / Display. Choose the Background tab and click the Browse button to find your .bmp file.
0 ROMANTIC IDEAS Part 8
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On a special occasion create a unique present for your partner by buying two white t-shirts and some fabric paint. Draw half a heart and the letters LO on one t-shirt and the half a heart and the letters VE on the other t-shirt.
When you walk down the street holding each other close, the heart will be made whole and your message of love revealed.
An example is shown below.
IDEA # 72
On a hot summers day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach with you.
Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then have a huge water fight.
IDEA # 73
Share your food with your partner. When you go out for a meal, hold a forkful up to her mouth and say, "You've got to try this."
Sharing your food and even feeding each other is a great way to become closer as a couple.
IDEA # 74
Compliment your partner in public. If you are talking in a group and it is appropriate to the conversation say something like, "Kate makes the most incredible roast." Squeeze her hand while you are talking about her.
IDEA # 75
Arrange a special day off from work. Start with breakfast, go for a walk in the park, go shopping, have afternoon tea in a cozy cafe and finish off with a romantic dinner.
IDEA # 76
Buy a gift voucher for a facial at a local beauty clinic and place it in a card accompanied by the message,
A special treat for
someone special
IDEA # 77
Even if you are just going down the road to buy some milk, act as though you are returning home after a major adventure.
Say something like, "Well it was touch and go there for a while with the snow and the wolves but I made it!" and then give your partner a huge bear hug.
IDEA # 78
Send your partner a thank-you note. For example:
Dear Bec,
Thanks for helping me move house.
Having you there made a huge difference.
I really appreciate your help and your love.
Tim
IDEA # 79
If you have kids, organize for them to stay at their grandparents for the weekend.
On Friday evening, announce that the weekend is yours and start planning how you are going to spend your special time together.
IDEA # 80
Give your partner a magic gift box. Every month, place a new small gift in the box for her to discover.
0 ROMANTIC IDEAS Part 7
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Write an email story with your partner. Start the ball rolling with an email that says something like:
Chapter 1:
This is the story of Pete and Kate who met at a friend's engagement party one summer afternoon.
The email can then continue to develop the beginnings of a story which can be completely fictitious or a combination of fiction and reality.
Finish your email by saying, "And now for Chapter 2, its over to you..."
IDEA # 62
Buy a kite and on a windy day find a park and fly the kite with your partner.
If you can afford it, buy a large kite that you control with two hand lines. These kites are great fun.
IDEA # 63
When you and your partner are planning to go out for dinner, suggest that you have an 'Adventure Dinner'. Here's how it works
Set the timer on your stopwatch to count down twenty minutes. Next, ask your partner to choose a number between 5 and 10. Lets say she chooses 7.
Give your partner a coin and tell her that at every 7th intersection, she has to flip the coin. If it is heads you will turn left. If it is tails you will turn right. When your watch timer goes off you have to both keep a look out for the nearest place to eat.
This is a fun way to get out and about and try new places to eat.
IDEA # 64
When you and your partner are going somewhere special, get your camera, buy a new roll of film and wait for her to come out of the house.
When she appears, act like a professional photographer and go wild taking pictures of her with the flash. While you are taking photos, bombard her with questions as though she was a famous actress and you are trying to get a scoop for the magazine you represent.
Not only is this fun but you will also get some great photos to look back on together.
IDEA # 65
When your partner is sick at home, take a day off to look after her.
Rent some videos, make her some soup, wrap her up in a blanket and just be with her.
IDEA # 66
When you are having dinner one night, ask your partner about the things she has always wanted to do.
Later on, write these things down so you don't forget them and over time try and help make them happen. For example she may say that one thing she has always wanted to do is swim with dolphins. Find out where she can do this and organize it for her as a special surprise.
IDEA # 67
Rent the video, "An Affair To Remember". Buy some popcorn, champagne and chocolate covered strawberries and have a special film night at home.
IDEA # 68
Go to the drive in but instead of sitting in the car, spread a picnic blanket on the ground. Light a candle and buy popcorn. Cuddle your partner and enjoy the film.
IDEA # 69
Create a personalized magazine cover for your partner. To do this, get hold of a good quality photo of her and a copy of a popular entertainment magazine.
Take these two items to a print shop or graphic design agency. Ask them to scan your partner's photo and develop a magazine cover with the lead story being, "The 30 most beautiful women of 2003".
When you get the cover, stick it on the front of a real magazine and ask your local shop owner whether you can place it in the magazine rack. Organize to meet your partner at the shop before going out. When she arrives, tell her that you are just looking for a magazine. Let her browse the rack and discover her magazine.
IDEA # 70
Fill the trunk of your car with helium balloons. Drive to a romantic spot in the country to go for a walk. The ideal spot is somewhere up high with a clear view of the surrounding countryside.
Get out of the car and act as though you are about to set off for your walk. Make sure your partner is closer to the car than you and then throw her the keys and ask if she can get your jacket from the trunk while you tie your shoelace.
When she opens the boot the balloons will be released. You can also place a sign saying, "I Love You" on the inside of the trunk so that it will be revealed when the trunk opens.
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When your partner is sitting at a table or desk, come up behind him or her and give her a back, shoulder and head massage. Finish with a gentle kiss on the cheek.
IDEA # 52
Place an ad in the paper on a normal day saying something like:
Dear Amanda,
With you by my side, everyday
feels like Valentines Day.
Thank you for being you.
Love,
Graham
IDEA # 53
Buy a book that you and your partner are both interested in reading.
Read one chapter each night in bed with each of you taking turns to read out loud.
This can be a great alternative to television.
IDEA # 54
When your partner is having a shower or bath, take her towel and place it in the dryer to make it really warm and then wrap her up in it when she is done.
IDEA # 55
Photocopy your hand and fax a copy of it to your partner with a message saying, "Do ya wanna hold hands?"
IDEA # 56
Next time you order a pizza, ask to have it cut into a heart shape before it is delivered to your home.
IDEA # 57
Buy a box of chocolates and very carefully open one side of the plastic wrap so that you can gently slide the box out. Open the box and place a love note inside. Then slide the box back into its plastic wrap and reseal it.
IDEA # 58
Rent a tandem bike and go for a ride with your partner. At the end of your ride have a picnic in the park.
IDEA # 59
If you are away on a business trip, document a day in your life for your partner. For example:
'A Day In The Life Of Mark'
6am: Just woke up and thought of you - Wish you were laying next to me. Well, I better get ready for work.
7am: Am on the train. It's crowded; everyone looks like they are half dead. I miss ya heaps.
8.30am: Have just organized my day, it's going to be a busy one.
9.30am: Am in the middle of a really boring meeting. I am trying to concentrate on this months sales figures but I keep thinking of your beautiful eyes.
...
6.30pm: Thank goodness the day is over. I am counting the days until we’re together again.
Send your letter to your partner. This is a wonderful way to tell your partner how often you think about her during the day and to share your life with her in a special way.
IDEA # 60
Speak to your partner's family and find out what her favorite book was when she was a little girl.
Buy a copy of the book and read it to her in bed.
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Buy a tree with your partner and plant it in a special spot. Each year on your anniversary, have a glass of champagne next to your tree and talk about how your love and the tree have grown.
IDEA # 42
If you shower first in the morning. Steam up the bathroom and write a message such as "Pete Loves Kathy" on the mirror for your partner to read when she uses the bathroom. This also works on car windows when it's cold.
IDEA # 43
As a special gift, name a Star after your partner. A number of astronomical agencies allow individuals to name stars and you receive formal documentation identifying the star that you have named. See the following website for details:
http://www.theromantic.com/gifts.htm
IDEA # 44
Find a comic strip that relates to something that you and your partner have shared together, for example perhaps you both work in the same office and you find a Dilbert cartoon that relates to the politics at your workplace.
Enlarge the cartoon using a photocopier and use white-out to cover the cartoon text. Type up your own text that relates to you and your partner and paste it in the appropriate places and then photocopy the cartoon again so that it looks like your text was the actual text of the cartoon.
For an added touch, get your customized cartoon laminated before giving it to your partner.
IDEA # 45
When you and your partner are enjoying a restful time away, organize to wake up early one morning and go to a scenic spot to watch the sun rise.
This may seem difficult but it is something which is definitely worth doing at least once. Seeing a new day being born is something really special to share with your partner.
IDEA # 46
When you have access to a spa, create a romantic atmosphere by placing some candles around the tub and some rose petals floating on the surface of the water.
As your partner enjoys the water, serve champagne and chocolate covered strawberries before joining her.
IDEA # 47
Create some love coupons that your partner can exchange for romantic favors.
For example you could have a coupon that reads
This coupon entitles the bearer to:
One Foot Massage.
Use by 07/08/2045
Use a date many years in the future if you want to suggest that you and your partner will always be together. Get 50 love coupons at this site: http://www.theromantic.com/lovecoupons.htm
IDEA # 48
On a warm summers night, organize a backyard picnic. Spread a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.
IDEA # 49
Next time it is raining really heavily, go for a walk with your partner. Forget the umbrellas and the raincoats. Run through the streets together, jump in puddles and get totally saturated.
Pick her up, twirl her around and kiss her while the rain falls. Taste the water off her face and hold her close.
When you get back home have a hot shower and then share a warm drink preferably in front of an open fire.
IDEA # 50
Organize a hot air ballooning trip as a special surprise. Most trips begin with a glass of champagne before you float over the countryside with your partner.
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When you and your partner are in a shopping center or airport, stop at one of those booths that allow you to take an instant photo and print them out as stickers.
Choose a romantic background and kiss your partner while the photo is being taken.
IDEA # 32
If your partner has voice mail at work or on her mobile, leave a message saying
"Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you."
She will appreciate this anytime but especially when she is going through a rough period.
IDEA # 33
Organize a mystery trip for you and your partner. Some travel agents will organize mystery packages where the destination of the trip is kept secret until you are actually on the plane or arrive at the destination.
IDEA # 34
Buy some rose petals and place them behind the sun visor on the passenger side of your car. Take a post it note and write, "I Love You" on it and stick it to the back of the sun visor.
As you are driving to a romantic destination, look at your partner and tell her she has a mark on her cheek. She will pull down the sun visor to use the mirror and be showered in rose petals and see your note.
IDEA # 35
If your partner is going on a trip, pack a small present into the corner of her suitcase that she will find when she is away.
IDEA # 36
When you and your partner are having an anniversary, buy two champagne glasses and get them engraved with your names and the date, for example:
Mal and Kate
7 May 2002
Go to the restaurant where you have made your reservations and request that when you and your partner arrive that your champagne be served in your special glasses. This will be a great surprise for your partner and a wonderful keepsake for you both.
IDEA # 37
On a special occasion such as your partner's birthday, buy twenty-four red roses. Arrange to meet her at a specific spot in a shopping mall before going out for dinner. Get to the shopping mall early and position yourself around the corner from your meeting spot.
Ask a guy who is walking by whether he would mind helping you out. Give him a rose, point out your partner and ask him to walk up to her and say, "Happy Birthday Meagan" and give her the rose and then walk away. Repeat this with eleven other guys. Choose guys who are not too good looking and choose guys of different ages. A nice touch is to have the last rose delivered by a small child who could even by accompanied by his parents.
After the first twelve flowers have been delivered, approach your partner with the twelve remaining roses.
IDEA # 38
Always listen for things that your partner reminisces about and jot them down somewhere. For example, perhaps she talks about the ice cream that she had from a particular shop when she was a little girl.
When a special occasion comes along, check your list of things that your partner talks about and try to recreate one of them, for example, visit the shop and buy a tub of ice cream making sure that the name of the shop is on the container.
IDEA # 39
Create a love montage by collecting some photographs of you and your partner, some ticket stubs of places you have visited and any other small odds and ends that have special meaning to you both.
Take these items and get them professionally framed in a three dimensional montage. Alternatively, buy a frame and create a simple montage yourself.
IDEA # 40
Buy an ornately carved wooden box which is lined with green or red felt. Find an old fashioned key and place it in the box.
Next, get a small gold plaque and have it engraved with the words
The Key To My Heart
Fix the plaque to the inside of the top of the box so that it can be read when the box is opened.
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Invite your partner to go for a walk. Get a back pack and pack the following items: A picnic blanket, a selection of fruit in small containers eg. strawberries, grapes, watermelon and kiwi fruit. Some cheese and crackers. Some sandwiches. A small tin of caviar. A half bottle of champagne and two plastic champagne glasses. If your partner asks what's in the backpack, just say a jacket and some lunch.
When you find a romantic spot, ask if she would like to stop for a bite to eat. Open your pack and remove the items one by one to set up your picnic. The last item you remove should be the glasses and champagne.
IDEA # 22
If you play a musical instrument, create a romantic environment in which to play for your partner. For example, let's say you play the saxophone. Contact your partner's roommate and arrange for her to make sure that your partner steps out onto the balcony of their apartment at exactly 9.30pm.
Drive to her apartment and set up before hand. Place a large sparkler in the music holder of your sax and light it as your partner steps on to the balcony. Play something slow and romantic.
IDEA # 23
Use this idea if your partner is going to work and you are staying at home for some reason (Perhaps you are sick or are working from home).
Say goodbye to her at the front door and then immediately send an email to her work address. The email should simply say,
"Miss you already".
The email will be in her in-box when she does her morning email check.
IDEA # 24
If your partner has long hair, take the time to brush it using long slow strokes. This is particularly effective after she has had a shower or when she is getting ready for bed.
IDEA # 25
On a special occasion like your partner's birthday, plan a treasure hunt for her. The fun begins when you suggest going for a walk on the beach.
When you get to the beach, carry a small bag with you. The bag contains a bottle that you prepared earlier. Inside the bottle is a treasure map. To make the treasure map look authentic, burn the edges with a match.
As you are walking, slip the bottle out of your bag and let it drop to the sand near the water's edge. You may have to pause and kiss your partner to do this unnoticed. Walk a little further up the beach then turn around and retrace your steps to 'discover' the bottle.
On the map have a dotted line leading from the beach to a nearby cafe. At the cafe, your partner won't know what to look for so suggest that you just sit down and have a cup of coffee.
When the waitress delivers the coffee, she suggests to your partner that she might find what she is looking for under the coaster. When your partner turns over the coaster she finds a key taped to the bottom. Obviously you will have to set this up before hand with the waitress. Most waitresses will be happy to help a romantic guy out with this type of thing.
At the next stop on the map, your partner finds or is given a spade. Then at the last stop on the map your partner finds a large 'X' made up of two crossed sticks. She digs and discovers a locked box. The key unlocks the box to reveal her present.
IDEA # 26
Invite your partner on a date by sending her a plain brown envelope containing a tape. On the tape, record the Mission Impossible sound track and then record yourself saying, “Your mission if you choose to accept it is to make your way to Café Venoli, 123 Park Lane at 18.30 Eastern Standard Time. There you will rendezvous with a stunningly attractive man wearing a red carnation. The future of the free world is now in your hands. This tape will self destruct in five seconds.” Then record ten beeps from a stopwatch and record yourself saying, “Would you believe ten seconds…” Its corny but it usually gets a laugh!
IDEA # 27
Contact your partner's family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl.
For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted.
IDEA # 28
Organize a professional photo shoot to obtain a portrait of the two of you as a couple. Frame the picture and put it somewhere prominent. Remember to make sure you give your partner plenty of notice so that she can get ready.
IDEA # 29
Write a note saying
"I thought of you today, and it made me smile."
Leave the note somewhere where your partner is sure to find it.
IDEA # 30
For Valentines Day, buy your partner a charm bracelet with at least 14 charms.
Remove all the charms and let your partner 'find' one charm each day for the first fourteen days of February. On Valentines Day give her the bracelet and any remaining charms.
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Memorize one of Shakespeare's love sonnets and recite it to your partner when you are in a romantic setting like a botanical garden. Don't just suddenly start reciting poetry as this will just sound corny.
While you are cuddling your partner, ask in a joking manner, "So is now a good time to recite a love poem to you?" She will probably say yes, expecting you to come up with something of the "Roses are Red..." variety.
Instead, look into her eyes, smile and recite the sonnet while you gently stroke her face. Try the sonnet below. If this is too long, just memorize the first four lines and the last two.
Shakespeare Love Sonnet 18
Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate.
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer's lease hath all too short a date.
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimmed,
And every fair from fair sometime declines,
By chance or nature's changing course untrimmed.
But thy eternal summer shall not fade,
Nor lose possession of that fair thou owest,
Nor shall Death brag thou wander'st in his shade
When in eternal lines to time thou grow'st.
So long as men can breathe, or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.
IDEA # 12
If your partner has to work late, take a lunch box and fill it with some of her favorite things such as chocolates, herbal tea, cookies, a small teddy bear.
Next, get a piece of paper and write
"Michelle's Late Night Survival Pack"
Draw a big red cross below this and stick the paper to the top of the box. Tell your partner to open the box when things get really tough.
IDEA # 13
If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from her childhood.
IDEA # 14
Leave a long stem rose where your partner will find it with a note on it saying:
"Thank you for coming into my life."
IDEA # 15
If your partner is starting a new job, buy a copy of "The Sound Of Music" sound track. Tape the song, "I Have Confidence" onto a tape and add your own message at the end of the song saying,
"Good Luck honey, I have confidence in you."
Give the tape to your partner to play on the way to work in the car.
IDEA # 16
Buy a small decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card.
Line the box with the tissue paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the card:
I know a great Masseur.
For an appointment ring:
(Your Phone Number)
IDEA # 17
When your spouse has had a really long hard day, run a hot bath for her. Pour some fragrant bath oil into the tub and gently bathe her from head to toe. Carry her into the bedroom. Gently towel her dry and tuck her into a freshly made bed with a kiss on the forehead.
IDEA # 18
For this idea you will need a portable CD player. If you and your partner have a favorite song, get a copy of it on CD and take it with you when you go away for a romantic weekend.
When you are in a romantic spot, ask your partner if she would like to dance. Place one earpiece in her ear and one in your own and enjoy your private dance floor.
This technique is particularly effective if the romantic spot you have chosen is somewhere where people would not normally dance, for example, the top of the Empire State building at sunset or on top of a mountain during a camping trip.
IDEA # 19
If your partner has a pet that she adores, at Christmas, in addition to buying a gift for your partner, buy a small present for her pet.
IDEA # 20
Go for a walk on the beach. Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand. Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.
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If your partner is going away for a few days, tell her that you are worried about her so you have organized a bodyguard to look after her. Then give her a small teddy bear.
IDEA # 2
Buy a packet of glow in the dark stars and stick the stars on the roof above your bed to spell out a message such as "I Love You" When the lights go down, your message will be revealed!
IDEA # 3
On a special occasion, buy your partner eleven real red roses and one artificial red rose. Place the artificial rose in the center of the bouquet.
Attach a card that says:
“I will love you until the last rose fades.”
IDEA # 4
Buy the domain name of your partner's name if it is available for example www.TanyaJohnston.com. Create a web page containing a romantic poem and a picture of a rose. When your partner is surfing the web, casually ask whether she has ever checked to see whether her domain name is taken. Let her type it in to discover her page.
IDEA # 5
Buy a stylish hand mirror and give it to your partner as a gift. Include a card in the box saying
“In this mirror you will see the image of
the most beautiful woman in the world.”
IDEA # 6
Take a book that your partner is reading and using a pencil, underline letters in a section of the book she has yet to read to spell out a love letter. For example in the following exert from a novel, the underlined letters come together to spell out the secret message "I love you"
The palace was a labyrinth, their passage through it tortuous and interminable. Initially they passed from building to building under the sodden sky. Steve's feet ached; he might have laughed at himself, the tireless traveler, grown too soft from his months in the city to walk any proper distance. Abruptly the guards halted.
The underlined letters will make your partner curious and with a bit of luck she will write them down. Spend time to encode a proper message such as "Dear Belinda, I love you honey"
IDEA # 7
Have flowers delivered to your partner's workplace. She will not only enjoy the flowers but will also receive comments and attention from her office mates which will add to her enjoyment.
IDEA # 8
While walking with your partner on a weekend getaway, pick up a smooth stone and say that you're going to keep it as a special memento of your trip. Later, have a message such as
"I Love Rebecca"
engraved into the stone by a jeweler and give it to your partner.
IDEA # 9
Drive into the country, find a grassy hill and lie with your partner and look up at the clouds.
Play the kid’s game of looking for shapes in the cloud formations.
IDEA # 10
Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing to the stick figures. Write "I Love You" inside a heart.
Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner's work such as:
For the immediate and urgent attention of:
Rebecca Jones
Level 20
Collins & Smith Solicitors
New York
Mail it to your partner so she receives it in the middle of a busy day.
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